Okay, so…being a new widow, I have been receiving a lot of booklets, books and cards in the mail. Most all of them come from people and/or organizations that are part of my Christian heritage. Well, today I received one that really captured my attention and really caused me to think most of the day.
This booklet came from one of the life insurance policies that Keith had. This was from a well known company and they have processed the claim very quickly. And they sent me a booklet. Please know that I am not in any way being critical of this company for trying to provide a resource for families. However, as I thumbed through the booklet, I realized the emptiness of the people that they used as case studies. The overwhelming grief from these people was staggering, and yet the quotes in the book that were there to provide comfort came from authors such as Kahlil Gibran, Abraham Lincoln, Longfellow, and Max Ehrmann.
Because my life is so saturated with Christian influence, and my walk with Christ is so real to me, this was my first experience with what I would call “secular” writings on dealing with death and grief. I have to tell you, I closed the book with overwhelming sadness for people who have only writings such as this as their hope.
In the chapter entitled, “Caring for Yourself,” the author discusses ways to identify what you are feeling, and then offers suggestions for developing a caring plan for yourself. There is a list of nine things that she offers as helpful activities that you can do in your caring plan. The number nine thing that she lists, almost as an afterthought, is “Revisit the religion of your childhood.”
Of all the things I read in this book, this one seemed the saddest…that at the point of one of the worst moments in their lives, these dear ones are having to be told to go back to something that it is automatically assumed that they left along with dolls and building blocks…the religion of their childhood.
I closed the book, raised my hands toward heaven and thanked God that my relationship with Him is fresh and new daily. I thanked Him for sustaining me during the past weeks and walking beside me and comforting me through EVERY situation that arose. Yes, He is the God of my childhood, but praise God that when I needed Him the most the relationship was there, and strong.
The point for today is that if you have left the religion of your childhood, don’t go back looking for it. Instead, breathe a prayer to the Living God, trust His Son, and know that His strength and comfort will infuse you and empower you no matter what you are facing.
Blessings, my friends!
Derek Berg said:
So glad you’re continuing to write, thanks for sharing and investing in us with your wisdom.
bethany b said:
Your blog is so adorable, LeeAnn! I love this entry and I too am so glad that your family is grounded in the Lord and that He is your sustenance right now and always. Can’t wait to read more!
Great job! What a perfect first post!
Hey there…great blog. I have a blog called Real Simple. I learned to journal while dealing with my mom’s cancer. Journaling helps me deal and if people read it…that is a bonus…if people are touched and see Christ in it, then I am blessed because of His leading. You moved me! I wish I blogged more (I use to before my full time job!) So take heart and blog away! miss you! congrats to josh! yeah!!
Roy McNiel said:
Incredible!! Keep writing please. Thank you for your heart and your willingness to be used by God as you walk through this valley!! Roy
Well said my friend. My own journey of recovery called for a return – not to the “religion” of my childhood which was part of the problem – but to the faith of my childhood. “Jesus love me, this I know” became the beginning of sobriety. Thanks for writing.
Pam Stephens said:
Thank you for your insight- I praise God for coming to know Him as a teen..but the growth in our relationship as an adult is what held me up and substained me when my husband & I when we lost our son. My prayer as I’m sure yours is too-God if I have to go through this —help me to help others! You sound like a strong woman- I know where your strength somes from!!
Yay Lee Ann! Thanks so much for starting this blog! I look forward to many more posts! 🙂 love ya!
Your blog will be a blessing to all of us. I am so glad that you are continuing to do this.
Like Keith, you challenge and inspire us! I am so blessed by God to have you in my life. Love you!
Joyce Tucker said:
Perfect! You are such a blessing and inspiration. Thank you for continuing to share. Love you,
Becky Samuel said:
Awesome!! You are a writer.. great insight.. thinking and praying for you.. God bless!
Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you in this way. He has given you a gift and you are sharing it all with us. I am grateful. Praying for you and your family. God bless!
Gail Canario said:
Lee Ann: I greatly look forward to your many insights. You are on my heart, and somehow Keith effected my life beyond what I realized. My prayers to you and your family and I look forward to your writings.
Lisa Broneill said:
I love your blog, and found it from following yours and Keiths journey on the Woodland Website. We are members at Woodland, but have never met you. My husband and I had a very hard time finding a church home, until 3 years ago when we walked into Woodland and heard Keith singing. Every week my husband and I would say to each other when we watched Keith: There is man that has a heart for God and truly loves God! You could see it clearly, and it radiated from him. I hope you continue to write, because I really enjoy your writing. Instead of those little pamphlets that the insurance company sends out, they should just send people to your blog. You have much to teach. I think you would be a great comfort to those who are grieving, even as you grieve.
My husband and I have prayed for your family since we found out about Keith’s cancer, and we still continue to do so.
Isaias Gwaltney said:
I’ll be sharing this using a couple of pals who may be interested in this. You’d be shocked how lots of people are trying to find a thing like this. Thanks for posting this for us. http://euro-scene.de/forum/viewtopic.php?p=360125
Marsha Baker Anderson said:
Lee Ann, Thank-you so much for this blog. It is good to be reminded that there are people out there who don’t have the hope in Christ as we do. And they are searching. We always need to be reaching out to them to let them know of our hope and joy in Christ.